It’s all about love
Nothing happens to you. It happens because of you. The sooner we stop pointing fingers at someone else and blame them for our unhappiness, the sooner we will get closer to real happiness.
Everybody wants to be loved for who they are. Nobody wants to feel unloved. Yet we can so easily feel not loved or we make someone else feel unloved.
This is what I learned about relationships:
I get back what I give out. Whenever I express criticism, blame, anger, and disrespect, I receive the same back.
Relationships are not about getting what you want from the other person. It is about learning about yourself.
Your closest relationships are your biggest mirrors. What you see is your reflection. That very trait, action or inaction you blame and criticise your loved one for, is the very trait, action or inaction that you have in your own unique form and expression.
The purpose of marriage and intimate relationships is not primarily about happiness, but to learn about yourself and about others so that you can learn to love yourself and others.
Let’s look at what love is:
- Understanding that my loved one has his/her own set of priorities/values/that what is of highest importance. And they will be loyal to that.
- I have my own set of priorities/values/that what is of highest importance to me. And I will be loyal to that.
- Love is seeing how your values are assisting me in the fulfillment of my own set of priorities and values.
- Knowing I am attracted to my complementary opposite and I see how my loved one is making me possible.
- Giving and then receiving.
- Being caring, not careful or careless to your loved one.
- Doing for your loved one that what you would like for your loved one to do for you.
- Best friend but not only friend. You both have your own unique friendship circle as well.
- Sometimes putting you first and other times putting myself first; it is balanced.
- A gift.