We adopted a baby and don’t want to label him as ‘adopted’.
We just want to introduce him to people as our baby. However, people will ask me about the pregnancy etc. My husband and I want to avoid explaining that he is adopted, every time. We especially want to announce him to the world (on Facebook). How can we avoid the adoption talk, what is the best way to handle it?
As much as you wish to avoid the adoption talk, the more it will follow you. It’s almost like a shadow following you and you can’t get away from it. Why do you want to avoid explaining how he came into your life?
How about you make this an inspiring story that will put a smile on people’s faces because the world is in need of good news?
Prepare yourself with your inspiring story and when people ask you about him, tell them how blessed you are that you received the phone call that there is a baby for you. Share your experience of how you had to jump into action to get ready for your baby and you didn’t have the normal 9 months to prepare. Share your jumping into action, the joy of meeting him for the first time and how he came to you as one of your biggest blessings.
People feel the same when they have to tell people initially that they are divorced or their partner died. They want to run away from the topic.
Your topic is one of new birth and love.
Announce it on Social Media and see how people will congratulate you and share in your joy. Give yourself the permission to share your joy with the world. And for the world to share in your joy.
When he gets older and it’s time to explain it to him, you tell him about the joy you felt the day you met him and he came into your life. Children (in fact all people) want to know they are loved and appreciated.
You tell him you are his heart mommy and he has a tummy mommy who carried him in her tummy until it was time for him to be born and be your son. Share your moments of joy, gratitude and delight when he came into your heart. He was born in your heart from his tummy mommy’s tummy.
The more comfortable you are about the topic, the more comfortable the whole world will be with it. You got your heart’s desire – you got your child, no matter the form. Now celebrate it.
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